When is it Time For Assisted Living? Having Difficult Conversations

No move is easy. As an older adult, this can be an even more sensitive topic as assisted living and memory care services become the next step. Discussing a potential move with your parents can be challenging and emotional — for both them and you. Thoughtfully preparing how to talk to your parents about assisted living can make these conversations smoother.

This blog will cover how to start a difficult conversation, how to talk to your parents about assisted living, and how to control your emotions.

How to start a difficult conversation

Preparing for your difficult conversation can make all the difference. Think ahead about what you’d like to discuss, what could upset your parent and what you’d like to leave the conversation with.

From the start of your conversation do your best to make it a safe space to talk. Let your parent know you will listen to their thoughts and wishes and reaffirm to them that you care about them and want what is best for them and their health.

Be prepared to listen — think of the phrase, “seek first to understand and then to be understood.” Keep in mind their feelings and have empathy from the start of the conversation. Make it clear they are heard and their opinions and feelings matter.

How to talk to your parent about assisted living

Before you talk to your parent about assisting living, research senior living community options to bring to the table. You should be aware of the types of senior living offerings and the level of care provided, as well as what your parent may need. Heritage Pointe offers assisted living and memory care services.

Memory care is for older adults who are suffering from Alzheimer’s disease or other forms of dementia, while assisted living communities offer nursing assistance and personal care as needed. Talk to your parent about both options, their concerns and what they would like in a senior living community.

When discussing assisted living for the first time, reassure your parent that a decision does not need to be made immediately. Approach the conversation with openness, encouraging your loved one to do the same, and work to understand their wishes.

How to control your emotions during a difficult conversation

Navigating difficult conversations can be especially challenging when your emotions are heightened. These conversations are sure to bring about a variety of feelings and reminding yourself of that can be helpful.

Here are some tips for controlling your emotions during difficult conversations:

  1. Deep breathing is shown to help calm us down when we feel anxious. Deep breaths signal to the brain to calm down and relax. Throughout your conversation, be cognizant to breathe deeply.
  2. Exercising emotional choice may be a helpful tool. Naming your emotions can help you manage them. By identifying what you are feeling, and acknowledging they are natural feelings anyone in the situation would have, you may find peace. During your conversation, if you feel an emotion arise, try reminding yourself why you are feeling that emotion, and that it’s okay to be emotional during these conversations.
  3. Taking breaks may be helpful if your conversation is not productive. If you and your parent have spoken your minds, it is okay to stop the conversation and decide to discuss again later. Embrace the flexibility to make decisions after you both get to think about your options.

Your parent will likely also be emotional. Do your best to comfort them as you both navigate this difficult conversation and think about what it would be like to be in their shoes.

Heritage Pointe is here to help

Our team is here to help you prepare for these tough questions about our assisted living and memory care communities. Contact us for more information, or to connect with a trusted staff member.

 

Does Your Loved One Need Memory Care?

When you are looking for memory care for your loved one, there are a lot of questions on your mind. With so much information, options and unknowns, it can be difficult to find the right memory care community. This blog will explore what memory care is, how to know if memory care is needed, and when to move to into a memory care community

What is Memory Care for Seniors?

Memory care provides specialized care to residents living with Alzheimer’s disease or other forms of dementia. At Heritage Pointe, around-the-clock care is provided and is personalized to each resident. It is an important part of our memory care community that our staff supports each resident’s individuality through personalized care and research-based, life-enriching programs.

We work to understand our residents’ life experiences, daily routines and interests to enhance their quality of life while providing safety and a sense of daily purpose. No matter the level of support needed, our staff is prepared to provide high-quality memory care.

How to Know if Memory Care is Needed

Forgetting things from time to time is a normal part of aging. Age-related memory loss shouldn’t cause a major disruption in you or your loved one’s life.

According to the Mayo Clinic, symptoms of Alzheimer’s and dementia may include:

  •  Changes in memory, reasoning or thinking
  •  Asking the same questions often
  • Forgetting common words
  • Mixing up words
  • Taking longer to complete familiar tasks
  • Getting lost in a familiar area
  • Drastic mood changes

If you suspect you or your loved one is showing signs of Alzheimer’s or dementia, it’s important to be assessed by a doctor who will ask a series of questions to determine the degree of memory loss. A dementia diagnosis is the first step to acceptance before finding treatment and appropriate living plans.

Even if care is not immediately needed, it can ease stress later to find a memory care community now that would be a good fit down the road. Our team at Heritage Pointe is ready to support you or your loved one through this journey.

When to Move to a Memory Care Community

There isn’t a one-size fits all approach when transitioning into a memory care community.

The Alzheimer’s Association recommends using the following questions to determine if living at home is no longer an option:

  • Is your loved one becoming unsafe in their current home?
  • Is the health of your loved one, or your health as a caregiver, at risk?
  • As a caregiver, are your loved one’s care needs beyond your ability?
  • Would structure and social interaction benefit your loved one?
  • Are you becoming stressed, irritable or impatient as a caregiver?
  • Does your loved one require medication or monitoring you can’t provide?

If your loved one doesn’t need care today, but you’re worried the answers to these questions may change, it could be beneficial to explore memory care communities now. It’s never too early to tour communities and ask questions. Oftentimes, communities have waitlists that provide some buffer time to get your bearings before moving your loved one.

We know finding Alzheimer’s and dementia care is overwhelming and emotional. You are not alone — connect with our team today to learn more about Heritage Pointe and our memory care community.

What is Assisted Living?

As you look at senior living options for yourself or for a loved one, it can be difficult to deduce what care level is best. Our team at Heritage Pointe is here to talk through our care options and find the best fit.

We offer assisted living in Orange County, California, which may be the right option for seniors who need assistance with activities of daily living. This blog will explore what assisted living is, who qualifies for assisted living, assisted living vs. nursing homes and the cost of assisted living.

For seniors who are looking for supportive living situations, but do not need full-time care, assisted living may be appropriate. The National Center for Assisted Living (NCAL) explains assisted living as “serving individuals who generally need help with every day activities and some health care services, but do not require 24-hour on going skilled nursing care services for extended periods of time.”

Assisted living should help residents maximize and maintain their independence for as long as possible. Each resident has individual needs and preferences; assisted living provides personalized care.

Assisted living at Heritage Pointe is supportive and comfortable. We provide personal senior care, support, and assistance with the activities of daily living, so residents can remain independent while having the option of support.

Heritage Pointe’s Sage Living neighborhood offers residents access to a higher level of care when needed. Sage Living includes:

  • 24-hour, specially trained staff on site
  • Increased staff-to-resident ratio
  • A secure environment dedicated to care and providing the highest quality of life
  • Multiple areas for group activities and smaller, individualized activities
  • Daily wellness, social and physical activities
  • Support with personal care, housekeeping, laundry, activities, and meals
  • Sage Living Spa with roll-in shower and side-loading whirlpool bath
  • Access to Heritage Pointe’s full range of services and amenities

 

Assisted Living vs. Nursing Home

Assisted living is intended for seniors who require some assistance with activities of daily living, but not round the clock care. While living in an assisted living community, seniors are equipped to maintain their independence and routines with access to care if needed. Alternatively, nursing homes provide 24/7 care for adults with serious health issues.

How long people live in assisted living depends on their overall health and development of needs or conditions. The NCAL estimates individuals live in assisted living for 22 months, then move to a nursing home or a different living arrangement (i.e., home with family, different facility, etc.).

 

Who Qualifies for Assisted Living

Because assisted living is so personalized, there are no strict qualifications for residents to meet. Generally, residents who need assistance with some activities of daily living (i.e., bathing, cooking, cleaning, etc.), require minimal skilled nursing services (not 24/7 care), are in rehabilitation or need medication management assistance are candidates for assisted living.

Residents who need constant supervision or memory care may be better suited for our memory care program.

Our team is happy to talk through care options — contact us today for more information.

 

How Much Does Assisted Living Cost?

According to the Genworth Cost of Long-Term Care survey, the estimated median cost of assisted living for 2024 was $5,551 monthly. Cost depends on a variety of factors, such as location in the United States, room size, amenities, care level, etc.

As you’re deciding if assisted living is the right fit, you may be wondering, how do I pay for assisted living? Many combine resources, such as personal savings, long-term care insurance, veterans’ benefits or other sources of income. Generally, Medicare does not cover assisted living costs, and not all communities accept Medicaid. Before committing to an assisting living community, it is important to understand what payments are accepted, what payment plans are available, and to have a plan to cover the costs.

For more information about our assisted living in Orange County and the best fit for you or your loved one, reach out to us today!

How to Age Healthfully

Aging is a natural part of life. And as we age, it’s important to be cognizant of our habits and practices to ensure we’re aging as healthily as possible. “Healthy aging” will look different for everyone; Heritage Pointe is here to support you on your individual aging journey.

Our residents enjoy a wide array of amenities and personalized services to keep them active and independent — such as a full-service dining room; fitness center with group classes, personal training and on-site physical therapy; swimming pool; community room; creative arts studio; music room and more.

What is Healthy Aging?

As people age, risks of chronic disease, mental decline and health emergencies increase. Some of these risks are uncontrollable. Consciously maintaining a healthy lifestyle is foundational to aging well.

This blog will explore three key areas of healthy aging and how they play a role in staying healthy as you age. We’ll discuss:

  • Physical health
  • Mental or social emotional health
  • Cognitive health

How to Maintain Physical Health While Aging

The importance of physical health to aging cannot be understated. According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), physical health helps seniors prevent chronic disease, maintain functional abilities and supports positive mental health. Your physical health also impacts your heart health, making it even more crucial.

The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services recommends 150 minutes of physical activity per week — or just over 20 minutes a day — with specific recommendations for strength activities, balance exercises and aerobic activity that gets your heart beat up.

Even small sessions of physical activity have health benefits. Not sure where to start? Here are physical activity ideas for seniors:

  • Take walks
  • Try a low-impact exercise class
  • Swim or practice water aerobics
  • Take a yoga class or try a yoga video at home
  • Dance along to a video or attend a dance class
  • Ride a bike
  • Visit a fitness center
  • Play tennis or pickleball
  • Go golfing (or miniature golfing!)
  • Go for a low-incline hike

Your diet is an equally important aspect of maintaining physical health. The National Institute on Aging has simple tips to eat healthfully, such as eating enough protein, adding fruits and vegetables to your plate, reducing sodium intake and drinking plenty of water throughout the day.

How to Maintain Mental and Social Emotional Health While Aging

Mental health and social emotional wellness is important at every age, especially as we age. As you experience changes in your life it’s normal to feel grief, social isolation and loneliness. But, experiencing these emotions persistently can lead to mental illness, such as depression or anxiety. These are not normal parts of aging, and they should not be challenges you face alone. If you feel persistent emotions of depression or anxiety, see your health care provider for specific care.

The World Health Organization (WHO) recommends social connection activities to combat social isolation and loneliness to improve mental health, life satisfaction and quality of life.

To stay connected, try:

  • Visting with friends or family
  • Joining volunteer groups
  • Finding local support groups
  • Attending community events 

How to keep a healthy brain

Preventing cognitive disease and disfunctions is of high importance to many seniors to prevent the onset of Alzheimer’s and dementia. As mentioned previously, age, genetics and family history can’t be altered, but actions can be taken to keep your cognitive abilities sharp.

The CDC draws benefits between physical health and brain health — they emphasize staying physically active, maintaining a healthy weight, maintaining a healthy blood pressure level, getting enough sleep, managing blood sugar and refraining from smoking as beneficial practices.

Your brain is like a muscle and exercising it is important. The beautiful thing about a healthy brain is any new or mentally demanding activity is exercise. Spend time trying something new, such as reading about a new topic, trying a new instrument, learning a new crafting technique or card game is key to keeping your mind engaged.

Heritage Pointe is proud to assist our residents on their aging journey. Whether it’s healthy food or group activities, we’re ready to provide the best care. To learn more about life at Heritage Pointe, contact our team today.

5 Signs Your Loved One May Need Memory Care

Deciding to move a loved one from their home or assisted living community into memory care is a difficult one. Having a transition plan for Alzheimer’s and dementia care can make the process smooth, efficient, and less scary for everyone, including the person suffering. Part of this transition plan is knowing the signs of these cognitive conditions worsening, and deciding at what point symptoms can no longer be managed without specialized care. But how do you know when it’s time for memory care?

What is Memory Care?

Memory care for seniors is specialized care designed for older adults suffering from Alzheimer’s disease or other forms of dementia. Dementia is not a specific disease, but a general term to describe a wide range of symptoms severe enough to interfere with daily life. Alzheimer’s is a degenerative brain disease and the most common cause of dementia. According to the National Council on Aging (NCOA), to be eligible for memory care, “(an) older adults must have a diagnosis of dementia and a need for around-the-clock supervision.”

What is the Difference Between Memory Care and Assisted Living?

While similar to assisted living communities, memory care communities offer additional services and safety precautions, such as secured outdoor areas and locked doors to prevent residents from wandering away. Like assisted living, memory care usually includes amenities like regular housekeeping, three nutritious meals a day, assistance with activities of daily living, also known as ADLS, like grooming or bathing, and some form of nursing care.

While assisted living communities offer nursing assistance, nurses caring for individuals with dementia are required to undergo regular training on abuse prevention and proper care. Special activities are also incorporated into the daily routine of those in memory care, including cognitive games and reminiscence therapy.

Now that we know the differences between these two care types, when is it time to move our loved ones from assisted living to memory care?

Signs it’s Time to Move Your Loved One to Memory Care
 

#1 Poor Hygienic Habits

Declining hygiene can be the first and most important sign of cognitive decline in seniors with memory issues. From bathing to clothing to the condition of their home, an inability to take care of basic hygienic tasks may mean more care is needed. But this, coupled with other declines, may mean it’s time to transition to skilled nursing care and housekeeping that comes with memory care.

#2 Safety is a Concern

This can include safety to oneself and to others. Self-destructive behaviors usually seen with dementia include difficulty with or forgetting to eat and drink, a lack of sleep, weight loss and/or gain or general confusion that causes wandering and can lead to injury. According to Frontiers in Neurology, cognitive decline associated with dementia can also lead to behavioral and psychological symptoms like “agitation, aberrant motor behavior, anxiety, elation, irritability, depression, apathy, disinhibition, delusions, hallucinations, and sleep or appetite changes.” These symptoms also correlate with greater caregiver burden, known to reduce caregiver quality of life. Enrolling your loved one in memory care ensures a safe environment with around-the-clock care that allows loved ones to return to their role as a loved one instead of a caretaker.

#3 Difficulty Socializing

Seniors suffering from dementia may withdraw over time or communicate less as they find it more difficult to do. This withdrawal can lead to depression or apathy. Many memory care communities offer planned social engagement and physical exercise, which many studies indicate lower the risk of or slow cognitive decline.

#4 They Lose Track of the Passage of Time

According to the Alzheimer’s Association, approximately 40% of individuals over 65 deal with age-associated memory loss. The World Health Organization (WHO) estimates that 5% to 8% of people over the age of 60 will live with dementia at some point. There is a difference, however, between the two. Those experiencing age-associated memory loss are still able to care for themselves, complete tasks and learn new things. People with Alzheimer’s or other forms of dementia lose track of dates, seasons, the passage of time and often forget where they are. If memory loss becomes this severe, memory care may be necessary for your loved one’s well-being.

#5 Loss of Interest in Activities

Depression and apathy are common conditions associated with Alzheimer’s and dementia, which can stem from any number of things – depression over the diagnoses, social isolation, side effects from certain medications and general confusion being leading factors. Commonly, people suffering from these illnesses experience hopelessness or a loss of interest in activities they used to enjoy.  Memory care communities can help treat these issues through many different methods, including psychology or “talking therapy”.

At Heritage Pointe, we provide the uplifting, engaging lifestyle and around-the-clock care your loved one needs and you want. With us, days are filled with joyful moments to ensure Residents still have opportunities to lead enriching lives, filled with the happiness —  and smiles —  simple pleasures can bring. Learn more about our memory care by visiting our website.